We are in the season where most of us are happy as we prepare for the holidays. Today, many people will share with their friends and family all the things they’re grateful for. However, there is a portion of society who doesn’t share the same sentiments. They can’t think of any reason whatsoever to be happy. They’ve lost a parent or perhaps a child or perhaps a best friend, etc. They may have lost their job or their home. They may have just received bad news from their doctor. They may feel lonely and/or depressed. For them, being surrounded by happy people makes them just that more unhappy.
Let’s face it, sometimes life is tough. There are times that we feel as though we haven’t been dealt a good hand. We look around at others and try to figure out why their lives seem to be flourishing and why the bottom seems to have fallen out of ours. You might be saying to yourself, “I’m a good person; I don’t deserve this pain”, and the the more you try to control things in your life, the more they spin out of control.
Stay focused: For me, this year has been challenging and, at times, uncertain as I made a life altering change a year ago; however, I had to keep going. I had to focus more on the “good” and less on the “difficult” situations.
Counting my blessings: I’m grateful for the usual things: life, health, being in my right mind (some would disagree with this, LOL), children, granddaughter, family, friends (and a new friend who has been added to my circle that helps to keep me grounded and focused), job, roof over my head, etc. I have been able to find my happy place in the “midst of the storm”, and sometimes, it’s in the form of my 3-year-old granddaughter who keeps me laughing by the things that she comes up with.
Don’t forget: Check on anyone that you know who could use a little “extra love” right now. I know that we often get busy, but please remember those who need you.
Talk it out: For those of you feeling down, know that it’s going to be okay. Your pain won’t last forever. If no one checks on you, don’t take it personally because sometimes people get so caught up in their own world that they “forget”. It’s okay for you to reach out for help. Let someone know how you feel. Don’t sit around with a lot of unhappy, negative thoughts on your mind because that’s a sure fired way to take you straight down the road of depression which can be difficult to get off.
No matter how you’re feeling today, keep on dancing!