I think this quote says it all…

How many of us can relate to the above statement?  You meet someone, they make you feel special, and then make you feel lonely, even though you’re in a relationship with them.

Girl meets boy — a really nice boy.  They laugh, they talk, they spend every waking hour together.  Girl is on top of the world and then, one day she comes a “tumbling down.”

This nice boy has suddenly turned into a “monster.”  He no longer wants to spend every waking hour with you.  He no longer takes your million calls a day.  He no longer laughs at your corny jokes.  He no longer seems to “care”.  What in the world just happened?

This “nice” young man is now rude, and just downright disrespectful.  Instead of whispering sweet nothings in your ear, all you hear is the loud “crashing” sounds of your relationship coming to an end.

You beg him to stop talking to you that way.  You plead with him to respect you.  However, he doesn’t listen.  Instead, he practically laughs in your face by telling you that “he doesn’t need you”.  In fact, he says, “I’m better off without you.  There are plenty of fish in the sea”.  What!  Is he really serious?  You have given him some of the best moments of your life.  You cut off your family and all of your friends, and made him your entire world.  How dare he treat you like this, right?  To add insult to injury, you turn into someone that even you don’t know.  Instead of saying this really isn’t working for me and I shall not be disrespected, you stay and hope that he changes, but you’re the one who changes instead.  You become this person that, even you, don’t recognize.  You start to trade insult for insult, disrespectfulness with disrespectfulness.  You start saying words out of you mouth that you’ve never said.  However, you still stay.  You try to sort things out in your head, and try to figure out what “you did” wrong.

Then, one day, you wise up and say, “I deserve better”.  You gather your dignity, self-respect, and your integrity and ride off into your own “happy” sunset.

Goodbye!

Now, sir, do you get the point?!

Yourself!

Always, remember, #GurlYouGotItGoinOn

Love ya,

Grace

P.S.:  I now have a podcast that is featured on Spotify as well as Apple Podcasts and a few others, which you may find under Grace Deveraux or “Take A Leap With Grace.”  Also, you may find me on Instagram @Gracedeveraux.  Please stop by and check out what I’ve been up to. 😊

Author: Grace Deveraux

I started this site for women, because as a woman, I understand the challenges that we face daily. Some of you are wives, some are significant others, some are mothers and/or grandmothers, running your own business, caretakers, etc. In other words, we have a lot going on. There are those of us who have been deemed "super women" or "super heroes" (boss babes), and we wear our "capes proudly," as we should. However, at the end of the day, we often neglect ourselves, thereby losing sight of the fact that we should practice self-care regularly (and no this is not selfish, but necessary). We have to "learn" to love ourselves enough to "stop," and take/make time to "smell the roses." Life is short...❤️ View all posts by Grace Deveraux