Now, that I’ve got your attention, I’m talking about life’s most precious gems – our
children and/or grandchildren (for those grandparents who are raising them).
People look to basketball players, baseball players, celebrities and the like to be role models. However…it should start at home. Don’t you think? What type of life are you living in front of your children? Are you teaching them about life’s lessons? Are you watching what you say and do around them, particularly, when they are at the impressionable phase of their lives wherein they mimic everything that you say and do? Are you monitoring what they’re watching on TV? Are you careful about where you leave them and with whom? Do you know their friends and their friends parents? Are you just dropping them off anywhere, so that you can have free time to “unwind”?
Why entrust your “gem(s)” to someone else for them to look up to? I understand that we point out certain well-known people to show them who and what they can be, and that’s fine, but you have to live the life of positivity around them daily because they’re with you most of the time. Be the change that you want to see in them. Who else should they pattern their lives after other than their caretakers?
When you look at your children/grandchildren, do you see yourself, positively, in them? Do they have your outgoing personality? Are they caring? Are they sensitive? Are they helpful? Do they laugh a lot? Are they adventurous? What do you see? One of my friends and I had a conversation about this recently and the consensus was that if you see nothing, perhaps, you’re not spending enough “quality” time with them. Hmm? Food for thought. The flip side of the coin is that because we are with our children/grandchildren everyday, we may not notice just how much they are like us and the influence we have on them — positively or negatively.
There are exceptions, however, as it is with every rule. Perhaps, you are a woman raising your son alone, and have no idea how to teach him to be a boy or prepare him for manhood. There are programs available such as the Big Brother program, and some of your local churches even have mentor programs. You’ll have to do some searching, but it’s worth it. If you need assistance, don’t be afraid or ashamed to ask. After all, your child’s very life depends on it.
For those of you who don’t need help, put in the work with your child. I guarantee the results will be rewarding. You never know who you’re raising your precious gem(s) to be.
As always remember, #GurlYouGotItGoinOn
P.S.: I now have a podcast which is featured on Spotify as well as Apple Podcasts which you may find under Grace Deveraux or Chat With Grace. Also, you may find me on Instagram @Gracedeveraux. Please stop by and check out what I’ve been up to lately.